Bonus Post: Mission Week 1

I think about honesty a lot. Honesty between friends, and lovers, boyfriends, girlfriends, family. it bothers me a great deal when I find out someone I know is not as honest as I once thought they were.
I try to be very honest. To me Honesty is the one thing that every relationship relys on. Honesty with yourself and whoever else you deal with. If it's between friends you have to be honesty to them about what you think of them, when you are angry, why you are angry. If you are going out with someone honesty about who you are and what you want, and the same needs to come from them.
I'm not talking about simple little white lies like : "No honey your butt does NOT look big" or "I'm fine" when you're really a little angry at something that makes no sense. I'm not even talking about only being honest about bad things. But being honest about good things too: "I like you", "I love you", "You're one of my best friends and without you I'd be kinda lost", "You put a smile on my face" Telling your friends how you feel about them, making sure they know the truth about how you feel. It's not stupid, and trust me it will make them feel better and you as well.
I don't understand how a person could go out with someone and not be honest about how they feel. That's leading someone on. Does anyone else out there think it's cheap to undermine feelings and love by acting like you feel something when you don't. The same goes for friendships, if you don't wish to be someones friend what is so wrong about telling them to their face why? They are racist, annoying, kleptomaniac, desperate, clingy, whiny, smelly, not there for you. Maybe if you took the time to tell them that they are loud they might take the time to restock what they do to try and keep you as a friend.
I suppose if you find yourself not wanting to talk to someone or even fix the friendship there's a reason why and think they have a right to know at least that you don't want to be their friend. I'm not saying it's easy. It isn't. It's hard. It's hard to look someone in the face and tell them you don't love them and never will. or that you don't want to be their friend and you never were in the first place. It's also hard to get led on. To believe something so deeply and then have it torn from you when you thought everything was fine.
It's not easy to bounce back from being told you don't have friends. Or to turn around one day and no one is talking to you, or even telling you why. Or that you're being dumped after two years when nothing seemed wrong. but is it easy to live a lie?
That's what it is isn't it? When you pretend things are true when they aren't?
I suppose it goes the other way as well, to pretend things aren't when they are.
I for one know how hard it is to be honest. To be honest with who you are and where you are in life. It's hard to accept truths and it's hard to admit them. It's hard to tell someone how you really feel, and it's equally hard to understand how they feel.
My mission for this week is to admit to someone a truth I've been hiding. Whether it's finally to pin someone down and tell them how I feel with matters of the heart, or to tell someone why I really dislike talking to them.
I think that getting truths out there could lift up lot of stress that haunts some of us. Maybe walking around with these shadows is hard, but walking around with slightly lighter loads could do us all some good.

Accept this mission, and believe me the truth I'm going to tell I've been sneaking around with for a year at least.

Be Honest People.



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